THE JOY OF UBER DRIVING – A WILD RIDE TO SELF LOVE©
Published by SheWrites Press: June 25, 2019
As an Uber driver since 2016, I realized that I had a special mission: To be a source of light and levity touching every one of my passengers with truth, humor and unconditional love. I always thought I was going to do it on a grand scale with dreams of fame and fortune as a signer/actress using beautiful words and lyrics written by someone else. But it was not meant to be. Instead I’m able to impact a few people at a time on a personal level with the love and wisdom I’ve gained through years of conscious practice and growth. And now, I’m using Uber to deliver my memoir interspersed with intriguing, personal stories from my passengers that coincide with my own stories. I’ve named each chapter after a song from the 60’s 70’s and 80’s because of my deep love of music and of the meaningful songs of that period.
Being an Uber driver has opened up a whole new world to me where I relate to people of all ages and ethnicities and recognize that they are me. It has also given me a vehicle for my own transformation in that I’m able to stop myself from judging my riders or making assumptions about them before giving them a chance to reveal their true nature.
As shame fueled generations of women to not speak up, my story begins with a natural set up for feminine shame: (i.e.) when I was born, the name I was given was Frances Hamilton Redewill named after my father and my grandfather because I was supposed to be a boy named Francis Hamilton Redewill, lll,. They never even stopped to consider a girls name, but at least they changed it from Francis to Frances to comply with my gender. I believe that was the origin of my shame as a woman. As an adult many years later, my name would be changed by my spiritual master,, Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, later known as Osho. He gave me the name Yamini meaning “Going beyond the night” into a life of consciousness.
In writing this memoir, it has made me connect the dots to so many seemingly incongruent events. I realized my life was about making the choice to live my life not somebody else’s. I can say without hesitation that by most standards, the choices I made in my 20s were from a fearless but scattered, unconscious, self-centered, and a low-self-esteem frame of mind. In my 30s and 40s I was an unhappy and confused spiritual seeker, who was unlucky at love, but unwittingly lucky to land a job as head of wardrobe at CBS. My 50s and 60s brought me to a place of many forms of creativity and leadership training in which I experienced new avenues of success and a new perception of what was possible for my life. However, I was still single and alone and not totally okay with it. Finally, in my 70s, I found the truth of who I am, why I am, and how true happiness and a youthful spirit has evolved and defined this woman known as Yamini.
As you read my story, you will discover that this is not a “ How to” book giving you everything you need to be skinnier, live longer, look younger or become financially rich and successful. It’s also not an epic love story with a Hollywood ending. It’s more like an “Eat, Pray, Love” mixed with “What the Bleep” kind of story that reveals the inner workings of a perpetually single woman manifesting sometimes devastating, usually melodramatic but always spiritually relevant events in her life that brings her closer to true happiness along with the existential joy of Uber driving. It is the unfolding of a bonafide #MeToo-er who evolved into a loving and self loved woman.
I listen to my Uber passenger’s stories. I hear some of their deepest longings. And so, knowing what is needed now, I am offering my memoir as a tribute to all the #MeTooers who have stood up and told their truth and to all the ones who will stand up in the future and to all the men who have daughters who care about their futures and to all the good men who truly know a woman’s worth and honor it.